My friends and I came up with the idea to help gamers with relationships. If you are interested in submitting a question send your email to DearAbby4Geeks@gmail.com.

My boyfriend's video games are destroying our relationship.-Stephanie

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, we live together and have a 1 year old son. I love him to death, and I don't want to leave him or be with anyone else. However, he plays video games all the time. He will plays games from the second he wakes up till the second he goes to bed, and even if we go and visit his parents or friends, he will play there too. He has a great job, and he's off half the time because it's shift work. And when he's off he never wants to do anything. If I ask him for help, he will help me, but it's still frustrating.
I feel so lonely all the time, and I've said everything I can to him, and I still don't know what to do.

Stephanie, I may have the solution to your problem. You'll never feel lonely again. Go out and find the game Rez...get the version with the "Trance Vibrator" included. It's a bit more expensive, but worth it, trust me. If you can't beat em, join em. Make him play it for you and I guarantee you'll be the focus of his attention while he does. -Tori-

Stephanie, You say he’s holding down a job, helps around the house and you don’t want to leave him so find some girlfriends to satisfy your loneliness and need for more personal interaction. -Cindy-

Video games are an easy way to escape reality for anyone and they are fun to play however your man is obviously playing too much. Welcome to life with a “Hardcore” gamer. It sounds like you probably gave him an ultimatum and he picked games. Sorry. It happens. Try giving him an ultimatum because that always works. -Nick-

How do I ask this girl out?-Connor

Okay, so i am 12, and my friend is 13, she's blonde and very athletic, anyway i really want to ask her out but i cant fix up the guts to ask. What should i do? By the way i didn't ask her because my friends will make fun of me if they find out.

Connor, by asking out Miss Athletic Blonde you risk public humiliation. If she says she’s not interested, you may feel rejected and depressed for several days/weeks. However she may be secretly dying to go out with you. In this case, by putting yourself out there you’ve gained an opportunity to develop an intimate and rewarding relationship with someone. You must weigh these consequences, and decide what you’re willing to risk. Because you are 12, you are at a golden stage of development where it is socially acceptable to privately ask her friends if she likes you. If you decide to go this route know that she will find out how you feel about her, and you may still be humiliated. -Rachel-

Go find cough syrup and drink two large mouthfuls then pop a Certs. After that find Goldilocks, grab her by that beautiful mane and kiss her on the mouth. Wait 22 minutes for the police to take you away and repeat next week. Works every time my man. -Nick-

Connor, She’s an older woman and athletic and you’re afraid of what your friends think. Unless you figure out how to man up she’d eat you alive. Grow a pair or ask someone else out. -Cindy-

Connor, the cake is a lie! She will eat you!

Can a wife and husband play video games together?-Lovel

I always was the weird one. Instead of thinking of romantic dinners on a cruise I think of a never ending video-game marathon on my wii with my future hubby! I'm not married yet, nor do I have a boy friend but I think it would be cute to play video games with him. Personally I like video games too, but my friends keep making fun of me and say, "What are you getting married to, a six-year old?" Is it strange to play video games with ur hubby? is there anyone else out there that does?

Yes, they can. I do. Several of my married friends play video games together. It’s not weird at all to hope to share a hobby with your spouse. -Rachel-

It is super fun to play together- just think of all the ways a heated, sweaty wii battle can end... As to your friends, who cares? Better to be married to a fun geek having those heated moments of competition than a "mature" guy whose hobbies include arguing with fox news channel on tv and internet surfing... alone. -Katie-
 

Does a guy who plays a lot of video games have a chance of getting a girlfriend?-Robert

So i'm 18 and have never had a gf,or even kissed a girl. And i'm just wondering if my video game habit will affect my relationship with girls.I'm not some fat guy that likes to sit home all day and play them but i do spend about 2-3 hours daily on video games.And i think this would be a big turn off for girls if they find out that i play video games.    So do you think i have a chance at getting a girlfriend?

18 and never kissed a girl? *PRO-TIP* Ask out a “practice girl”. You think you are a 7. Date a 5 or a 4 for a month. Everybody wins. -Nick-

They need practice too.

Do girls think that it is weird for guys to be playing video games?-Cadco

I play my xbox online some everyday but I just consider it a substitute for watching TV. I don’t think there is a difference in watching a 2 hour movie and playing a video game for 2 hours.
I have always wondered what girls who don’t play games think about it.
 

No, most of them don’t. Playing video games is your hobby. If a girl cannot accept your hobby, then she’s not worth your time. -Rachel-

Cado, Girls don’t think it’s weird for guys to play video games. They just want to feel like you’ll spend at least as much time perfecting your relationship with them as you do your video skills. -Cindy-

How do I persuade my parents to let me spend more time playing video games?-Joe

I don't get much time on video games any advice on getting more?

Parents usually see video games as a treat or a muzzle for their children. Make sure that it does not interfere with the things they see as important. Tell your parents how it is a healthier option than watching TV and doing the drugs that you so desperately want. They will come around. -Nick-

You probably won’t be able to ‘talk’ your parents into more time, but you might be able to earn your way to more time. Show them you can keep up with the stuff they think is important and they may let you spend more of your free time gaming. -Cindy-

Is it okay that I find it attractive that my girlfriend plays video games?-Reggie

I’ve talked to several guys at school and they said they wish they could meet girl gamers. I have a girlfriend and I love her very much. I sometimes wish she could play video games a lot like me. I sorta have a thing for girls who play video games. I find it really attractive. Like she tells me sometimes she plays them but not a lot. Is it okay that it attractive?

Yes. Everyone has different tastes in romantic partners. If you’re happy, who cares what anyone else thinks? -Rachel-

Reggie, You’re a lucky man! Your girlfriend shares your interest in gaming. It natural to be attracted to someone who likes something you enjoy. Don’t blow this by expecting her to have the some depth of passion, it may never happen. -Cindy-

What!? Hells ya it is OK to think gaming is attractive! It is important to find a woman with the same interests as you. As a man you build relationships doing activities with others whereas women build relationships through communication. You will grow and change but understand that male/female relationships need to be built and maintained on a minimum of those two pillars. -Nick-
 

Girlfriend is making me choose between her and video games HELP?-Indiana

I'm a gamer and I like to play video games for at least three-four hours every day. She says I put to much attention to them and not to her and now I have to choose between her or the games. How am I supposed to choose? What should I do? Help.

It sounds like you’ve already made your choice. If on a regular basis you would rather play video games alone than do something fun with your girlfriend, why continue the relationship? Find someone that you want to spend time with on a regular basis and who shares your idea of how much time that should be (e.g., 1 hour a day, all day Saturday, or every night all night, etc.). Having distinct hobbies is healthy for any relationship. However, enjoying shared experiences is also vital. If you and your girlfriend do not take pleasure in any common interests (and I’m referring to more than physical intimacy), then what’s the point? -Rachel-

Dump her! Girls give people cooties. It’s science, look it up.  -Nick-
 

Games VS women? Be sure to weigh your options carefully.